An interesting question for you............

I am back! At least for today, my sporadic writing is one of the reasons I don't announce this blog to a ton of people ;)

So I was on face book last night, and saw an interesting comment. To paraphrase it said " I am a stay at home mom and wife. It is in my job description to have a clean and sparkly house for my husband."

Hmmmmmmmm Now I do know a little bit more about this as there have been other comments along that line. I know that as a wife and stay at home mom she is not allowed on any of the bank accounts, she does not have access to any money, except what her husband pays her in allowance, she has no credit cards, etc. If she wants to buy a gift for the kids or herself she needs to ask permission.  If her job is done correctly then she will get her full allowance. She can earn extra money by keeping their electric,heat, and air conditioning bill low. He has a set amount for that, if she stays under she gets to keep the difference, if she goes over, she pays it out of her allowance. Her allowance must pay for groceries, household supplies, and anything they need for the house and family, what is left is her spending money to spend as she chooses.

So now that you have a little more background, can you or do you live like that?

I do not and I do not think I could.  I am a stay at home mom and wife. I do not bring in a paycheck in the form my husband does. I save money by not sending my kids to daycare, eating at home every day, and shopping sales. That is my paycheck to the household.   My husband respects me and my decisions I make for our family and home. I am on all the accounts and I have the right to go shopping and buy things with out his approval 1st.  In the same way I respect him and he can go and buy what he wants to also. The rule in our house is if it is over $100 we need to agree. Now neither one of us  go out and shop like crazy and drain our accounts, and we don't have to stress that one of us will. 

I do not get an allowance. And after thinking about that last night, I think if my husband paid me an allowance, I would feel bad, sad and a little angry at him. I would be worried about "doing my job to his standards, and making sure the house is sparkly and clean"   I would feel belittled by him thinking my job isn't important and he does not trust me to use our money wisely.     Do you get an allowance and if so how do you feel about it? I am interested in getting other views on this.

I do not have a job description from my husband. (In our house if the kids are happy, alive and fed we had a great day! :) )  But if I did have a job description from him, I think I would have him do everything I do in a day just so he can see how hard my job really is! (I know from past experiences he can't do it all) And after that I would hope he would take "his job description" and shred it. 


So my question to you is: How do these things work in you household? Are you on an allowance? Are you on the accounts for your household? Do you need permission on what to buy before you buy it?

My little 2 are up and ready to start the day, so I must as well.

Until next time,
Happy Mom